WHY NOT GIVING A FLYING FUCK IS SUPER DUPER IMPORTANT
When was the last time someone told you:"You just need a thicker skin. Stop being such a push-over / cry-baby / overly sensitive woman and do it!"
Raise your hand if you have been told to toughen up if you want to reach your goals.
Wanna hear my opinion?
I don't think we - sensitive wonderfully weird people need a thick skin. Why would you? Your delicately thin skin helps you to sense more than other people do. It's an incredible asset. So, forget the thick skin routine, it won't help you.
"Okay Esther, but I hate it when people unsubscribe from my list. How do I deal with that?"
"I asked for a testimonial and I'm still waiting. Now I'm convinced they hate what I did."
"I launched a program and no one bought it."
"I shared my art work, no one clicked the like button."
"I wrote a heartfelt article and I got one reaction. ONE! not even in words, someone clicked the Like button!"
It's horrible, it hurts, it stings, it makes you want to flush yourself through the toilet. Rejection causes you to doubt your knowledge, your offerings, your texts. And most of all: yourself.
In comes the alternative to the thick skin. Are you ready?
The Flying Fuck Method
Since a Thick Skin is not an option we need to learn to value ourselves enough to not give a Flying Fuck when what we want to achieve comes from a clear motivation to do good.
I know you are motivated to bring change for the good of all! And that's what you need to focus on when the going get's though!
I lost over 75 people on my list during registration for my The Real You program.Yes, that hurts! I even made the mistake to see who they were and saw people I personally knew well had unsubscribed.
Shall I Quit....?
But then I thought: "I'm not giving a Flying Fuck." Meaning I did care, it did hurt, but I chose to NOT react to it and to NOT let it stop me.
Because if I hadn't done that, I wouldn't have been able to fill my program with 45 amazing Wonderfully Weird entrepreneurial women.
It's all a matter of perspective.
So in short: whenever you are faced with something or someone who blocks your goal: Do Not Give a Flying Fuck.
Face the sting, Bite through the pain, Go for long term gain. Value yourself, your motivation and your goals more than the blockage.
Write that second article, that third article, that fourth article, until your audience actually gets you. Get that testimonial, it will get easier, but never really easy (I still dread asking for testimonials because I fear people will say: "Uhm well, I think you kinda suck.")
Don't buy into the "Things will get really easy", because it will always be a sort of difficult and complicated. But you will just NOT Give a Flying Fuck.
I know you've got what it takes, Care for what matters,
Let go of what stops you!
With love and in admiration for what you do and who you are,