Meditation is not easy (or is it?)
Why it's SO important to meditate when you're an entrepreneur who wants success
Esther de Charon de Saint Germain is mother, partner, friend, sister and aunt and a self-love advocate and business and branding strategist. A speaker, author, soul whisperer, and the founder of the Brave Movement that teaches women entrepreneurs to build a business based on self-love, radical self-acceptance, and true confidence. Featured in Huffington Post, Marie Claire, Elle, and Thrive Global, Esther is the founder of the Self Love Success Club Follow Esther at Instagram | Facebook I Pinterest
Do you have a meditation practice? Hate it? Love it? Don't get it? On your bucket list, but how? Do I need to read 27 books first? Is this only for people who travel to Bali all the time and wear flip flops?
It's all okay, it's not just about the cushion, it's not about pushing your hands together and breath in and out. It's about 'How you take your meditation with you throughout the day.'
Giving yourself time to meditate is an act of self-love. It's self-care to the max.
That might be the reason why the road to the meditation cushion can be SO freaking long. Even if it's just lying next to you within easy reach (spoken like an experienced meditation procrastinator).
But once you’ve managed to finally sit on that cushion (or just on a chair, or enjoying nature) breathing in and out, feeling the stress melt away (mostly after worrying the first 5 minutes why the hell you're not calming down at all) it's like a mini-Spa in the middle of the day.
But how can you experience that feeling of inner peace with you? What happens to the meditation when you get triggered?
I used to meditate at least an hour or so each day for many years. I did all the bells and incense, the altar, the prayers, the retreats, you name it. Meditation helped me to heal a severe and deeply painful depression.
But then I met my husband - who was not into meditation, probably because he's ridiculously even-spirited, I became a mother and it all the many hours of the cushion sort of stopped. BUT as a more 'experienced practitioner' it was easy for me to get back to go back to the 'State of Meditation'.
Okay, let's be really honest, every now and then I didn't freak out because I knew how to 'Quiet my Mind'.
So, how can you use the incredible power of meditation in your business and why is it important?
Every entrepreneur knows how easy it is to get triggered. And to fall OUT of love with yourself, your idea, your schedule ...
Your client doesn't show up, only 10 people open your email. You're in the middle of a launch and all you can do is cry and auto-repeat: "I suck. I suck so bad. Of course nobody wants to buy anything from me." You have a GREAT idea and suddenly you see someone else having ' more or less the same problem' and there goes your happiness.
When you practice meditation everything becomes SO much easier
Yes, I know that is easier said than done, but hear me out. Okay? When you develop some sort of meditation practice you carry your practice with you, where ever you go. Whether you see yourself as a Buddhist practitioner, or you practice mindfulness or yoga, it really comes down to the same idea.
I meditate with my clients all the time, and it always shift the energy. We go from 'it's difficult and hard and I'm All Alone' to " I'm so ready to do this again. I'm energized, full of self-love.'
In meditation, we transform the mind. Maybe you experience a deep tranquility. And maybe you are just confronted with the massive restlessness that lives in you.
It's all good.
But while you may feel all firm and stable during your yoga or meditation, on the way home you might feel like kicking the car that cuts you off (or at least you do some fancy yelling).
Or you find a battlefield in your kitchen. And your partner hangs - very non-spiritual - on the sofa, watching a B-movie.
There goes your wonderful calm mood
Was it only fifteen minutes ago you felt this beautiful calm in your mind and heart? Didn’t you promise yourself that Everything was going to Change? Seriously! How is this possible! You were set on remaining calm and steady after spending your weekly 30 minutes on the cushion
"While I give it my all, the rest of the world is working against me in all possible ways."
Well….Maybe that is just me...
These moments are only small reminders that show us the importance of regular practice.
In meditation, we practice "seeing things in perspective”. Not everything is of equal importance. We do not need to follow every emotion.
If your friend makes a nasty remark, it reveals something about her. However, the sense of loathing you feel about her is yours again. Your ability to put things into perspective bring more elasticity to your own mind. The wire between your action and reaction will be looser.
There is someone who can explain this all much better than me.
Meet Ragnheiður Guðjónsdóttir (just call her Ragna) the Icelandic Queen of Calm (also my friend and client) who really knows how meditation works.
By the way, Ragna is the real deal when it comes to mindfulness. She's about to open her membership at the super duper affordable founders rate where you can meditate with her and I highly recommend you take her up on her offer.
How to Practice Entrepreneurial Calmness (when you're about to freak out)
Imagine this: You rent an office and your landlord - who is on average a great person - enters your office and barks: "I want to talk to you at 11 o’clock”. And you immediately are given a choice:
A. You totally tense up. And stare in fear at your computer until 10.55 am.
B. Or you think, "Well that’s a special way of inviting me for coffee! Looking forward to it!” and carry on.
C. Or you take the middle path - that’s the realistic one - and think: "There is a good chance that this is going to be a somewhat difficult conversation. I can drive myself crazy by thinking about what might happen next. But the best thing is - as calm as possible…breath in…breath out… to keep going on.'
Because you don’t want to sit opposite your landlord (or any person) in some wild-eyed exhausted state of frenzy.
You need your calm. Because the moment that door was thrown open, many buttons were pushed:
- Fright (panic! The door is suddenly thrown open)
- Fear (I've done something wrong. Somewhere in the back of your mind you can hear your father say, "I’ll speak to you later, young lady")
- Anger (who gave that bitch the right to talk to me in that way!)
- Envy (why do I have to come to her and not him? His bloody life is always going so smoothly…)
- Self-pity (always… seriously… always .. I am always the one…)
And this is THE moment.
You are presented a golden opportunity: integrating the lessons of the cushion. Experience the storm that’s raging inside you.
See it, feel it, it moves in your mind and body. But you don’t have to react. Watch all the emotions fly around like leaves in the storm. You ARE not those emotions. You just feel them.
You have the choice whether you go with it.
Ragna's videos and text share a wealth of inspiration and instructions.
May you be Happy, May you be Well, May you be Free of Suffering