WHY I REFUSE TO SURRENDER TO MY INNER PERFECTIONIST

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Picture this

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After a full day of testing and rehearsing (I even forgot the chocolat on my desk!) and days of preparing my webinar, I’m all set for my webinar “How to Overcome Perfectionism”.[dt_gap height=”20″ /]

I see the names of people who signed up – from al over the world – on my screen… I start speaking. Welcoming my guest to the webinar, and then…. nothing! ….. There is no sound!

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There are people from Spain, Italy, the Netherlands, United States, Germany, Jordan, France and Great Britain…

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BUT THEY CAN’T HEAR ME!!!!

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[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column][dt_gap height=”10″][vc_column_text]I’m freaking out, Rik my husband is running back and forth between our offices. I’m doing everything possible while the majority of all my visitors is waiting patiently (I was really touched by their patience!)

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But there was no other alternative than to cancel the meeting.

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NOW, I’ve got to confess, If this had happened to me last year, I probably would have crawled under every duvet in the house and cried my eyes out. Giving in to the perfectionistic monster.

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But I didn’t (I was somewhat surprised by it as well…)

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Hours later, when the dust has settled down, I reflected on what had happened.

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Why the hell hadn’t I surrender? Was it some sort of will power? And why was there no shame? I had felt no shame at all (and I excel in the whole shame thing!)

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And then – Light Bulb Moment –  I realized, it had been the gratitude.
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I had felt so profoundly grateful for the people who had patiently waited for the webinar to start. I felt grateful for everyone who had signed up. And had I felt such immense gratitude  towards the people who had tried to help me.

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My husband, my brother and sister, friends, even people who I’d never met before!

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The intense feeling of gratefulness had been so profound that there was no space left for the perfectionistic monster to enter my mind.[dt_gap height=”20″ /]

Being grateful is a great neutralizer for shame and perfectionism! [dt_gap height=”20″ /]

SO, if you think failing is the worst thing that can happen to you. It’s not. I promise you

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P.S. I’ve given my webinar on March 12 and 13 and …. I loved it (so did the webinar attendees!) [dt_gap height=”30″ /]

 P.S. 2 You can watch the webinar “How to Overcome Perfectionism” from March 13 here.[dt_gap height=”30″ /]

P.S. 3 The Program in the te webinar 69 Days of Playing & Creating is open. The doors close March 19!

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Esther de Charon

Esther de Charon de Saint Germain is the Business Doula and Soul Whisperer of brave female entrepreneurs who want success on their own terms Esther is the author of "The Wonderfully Weird Woman's Manual" a Brand Expert, certified Transformational Art Coach, Artist, Communication Consultant, Art historian, Huffington Post + Thrive Global Blogger with over 25 years experience in the field of branding, design, creativity and art. She lives with her 13-year-old son and husband on an old farm. She's also addicted to Jasmin Tea, Opera with seriously bad endings, Weird Art and Red Lipstick.

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