May 7, 2015 11:29 am

What a group of Ex-Felons have in Common with You and I

Closing the Gap

between Vulnerable Creative Insecure Openness – where everything is possible – and the Actual Money Making Business

Do you follow “Humans of New York” on Facebook?
Today there was a group of ex-felons who had to learn How To Be Vulnerable and to “unlearn the years of self-protection that it took to survive in prison”.
I think this is wat being courageous is about. And it fueled my resolution to come clear with you.

Because I have to admit vulnerability and I are having a troubled relationship.

To be honest I suck at it. That’s quite a revelation from someone who is a coach and a creative mentor. Especially from someone who opened the doors of the Creative Study – where vulnerability is a big deal! – and loves you to subscribe to it.

Like many others I excel in sharing my feelings AFTER everything is resolved. When the storm has vanished, the road is clear and all is fixed.

But I suck at being vulnerable while I’m being in the middle of the whirlpool.

There I said it. As Creative Entrepreneurs we always have to negotiate between that Tender Open Creative Space and the confident “From Rags to Riches” exterior we’re supposed to show the outside world.

Like you I receive daily emails from the Marketing Guru’s who tell us How We Have to Behave. How to Get More Clients and How to Become Rich Really Fast.

But they do not teach you: “How to Be More Like You Are”. They do not explain you: “How to drop the Mask of Confidence”. They do not tell you: “Be Tender, Open Hearted and Kind to Yourself while Earning Money.”

And that’s exactly why I created the Creative Study. Because it is intended as a Safe Haven where you learn how to Align the Truest You with your Real Business.

It’s already proven to be a genuine learning process. I stumble, fall and get up again. I realize I have to remain in that state of vulnerability. It’s the place where I can support others in the best possible way.

It’s also the place where YOU can support

your audience in the best possible way.

I invite you to join me – and your Fellow Creative Students who already took this Leap of Faith – and to share the process with me.

To learn that vulnerability is not our weakness, but the Birthplace of our Creativity and Innovation.

Humans of New York

“We’re trying to unlearn the years of self-protection that it took to survive in prison. What works in there doesn’t work out here. In prison, vulnerability is considered a weakness. But vulnerability allows you to connect on an emotional level. Without it, you can’t develop skills or build healthy relationships. I want this support group to be a safe place for ex-felons to begin to feel vulnerable again.

I want them to learn that they can express vulnerability, and experience the joys and disappointments of other people without getting hurt. If they can’t learn to express their vulnerability in relationships, they will end up back in prison. They’ll become isolated from their families because those relationships were built on deception, instead of trust. They’ll choose to express their vulnerabilities through drug use, or violence.

They might even strike back at their boss when they’re reprimanded at work. The goal is to provide them with a safe platform to express their emotions before they’re filled up.”

About the Author

Esther de Charon de Saint Germain is the Business Doula and Soul Whisperer of brave female entrepreneurs who want success on their own terms

Esther is the author of "The Wonderfully Weird Woman's Manual" a Brand Expert, certified Transformational Art Coach, Artist, Communication Consultant, Art historian, Huffington Post + Thrive Global Blogger with over 25 years experience in the field of branding, design, creativity and art.

She lives with her 13-year-old son and husband on an old farm. She's also addicted to Jasmin Tea, Opera with seriously bad endings, Weird Art and Red Lipstick.

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