And now you're a late-diagnosed Neurodivergent woman with a business 

What happens after the ADHD or autism diagnosis?

So now you're a Neurodivergent Woman in Business. Will everything stay the same? Keep pushing like you did before: the neurotypical way? Or will you use this massive opportunity for growth and find your true natural rhythm?

Are you late-diagnosed autistic, AuDHD or ADHD? And are you experiencing an uncomfortable big shift because what happens after the diagnoses? This is what is called unmasking.

What happens after the Late Diagnoses when you're a Neurodivergent Woman in Business? 

So this morning I wanted to was being called to shoot a quick 5 minutes video. But after 23 first takes filled with 'uhms' and more 'uhms', I kept going and to share an 'out of my control' video - for the entire freaking world to see.

I know, I've got only 300 - and a bit - followers on YouTube, but still.

I’m ugly crying on this video But here’s why I will post it any way. 

• We all got these super important breaking points in our life.
• They can show up like huge gaps where we are being invited to honor who have become, to see through the layers and step into a void, without knowing what will happen next.
• For instance: * An empty nest * After a big loss* After - or during - menopause * After moving to a different country* 
• And in my case, after being late diagnosed with ADHD and autism. 

After something as large as being late-diagnosed and finding out you are ADHD, autistic or AuDHD, your life completely changes. 

You've got to re-asses everything!

* How you want to show up?

As a perpetually flawed neurotypical? Or as someone who dares to live in alignment with your rhythm, needs, dreams, health, challenges and goals?

* Who are you as a solopreneur, woman with a business, an entrepreneur?

A flawed neurotypical entrepreneur? Or can you leverage what makes you unique? And stop fighting 24/7?

After the ADHD, autism or AuDHD diagnoses, we've got a unique opportunity!
We've got a choice.

To keep doing what we used to do and not following a divine invitation.

Or the BE who we truly are. And - even though I've done this many times - this one feels huge to me.

My issue is masking as a neurotypical. For almost my entire life.

My masking is fighting. Working myself to the bones. To never give up. To push! push! push! myself.

Pretending to be okay when I'm not. To join large business meetings and needing 2 full days to even being able to speak again.

So unmasking is saying farewell to the neurotypical person you have never been. It's coming to terms that you are a late-diagnosed neurodivergent entrepreneur.

When you’re 18-years old, that’s already hard. But when you’re 40, 50 - or holyfuck 60 and up - that means you have to start over.

Those large business conferences? I can NEVER do those again. I can ONLY survive those meetings when I put the neurotypical mask back on. And give myself 7 days of recuperation time.

A large part of me still thinks that I can pretend to be neurotypical. 

But it always leads to exhaustion.  So one - very useful - talent I have lost after dropping the neurotypical mask is my ability to stick to the freaking story. * Well, I never was very good at it but I forced myself. 

Do you want short and concise? You get it! I can pretend to be like a CNN reporter. 

But unmasking me - can’t do it. Unmasking me - only starts making sense after ugly crying.

Unmasking me - can’t do anything that doesn’t feel aligned anymore. If you recognize any of this, you - and I - deserve a life without the neurotypical mask. It’s not easy. But the reward will come. And I would love to support you in the process. 

I hope this video will help you understand you are not alone.

X
with love,

Esther